Responsibility

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”1

I was recently criticized for suggesting that I wanted Jesus to be my co-pilot. I was informed that Jesus is to be our pilot.

I know that sounds impressive. However, in the Christian life it is sometimes difficult to discern how much God does for us and how much we need to do for ourselves. One thing is certain, God will do for us what we are unable to do for ourselves, but He will not do for us what we are able to do and need to do ourselves. If He did, He would be being codependent and that would keep us overdependent, irresponsible and immature.

God has promised to give us wisdom if we ask for it, guidance if we seek it, and be with us wherever we go if we ask Him to—providing we stay within the limits of His guidelines and boundaries. The fact is, however, that we are always responsible for the decisions we make and the actions we take. We are in charge of our life.

Doing our part is accepting personal responsibility. As I do this, I can rest assured God will do His part. We will sit and wait for a long time if we expect otherwise. God isn’t codependent.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, help me to act responsibly in everything I do and always look to You for wisdom, guidance and direction. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV).

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Confession as a Game

“Blessed is he whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered. Blessed is the man whose sin the LORD does not count against him and in whose spirit is no deceit.”1

We have on more than one occasion emphasized the fact that confession is needed for the healing of many sicknesses. It is also needed for spiritual and emotional healing. However, keep in mind that “confession without repentance is a game.”

True repentance not only includes godly sorrow for the wrongs we have done, but literally means to turn around and go the opposite way. That is, with God’s help, we need to determine to stop committing the sins we confess.

Realize, too, that some (if not many) outward acts of sin are the “fruit of a deeper root.” That is, the obvious act of sin is the symptom of a deeper sin. And, as Cecil Osborne pointed out, “When we are hiding a deeper sin or fault, we confess a lesser one all the more vigorously.”

For instance, a critical, negative person is an angry person. If he is going to stop criticizing people, he also needs to confess and resolve his anger. A control freak is a very insecure person. To overcome her problem, she needs to confess and get help to resolve her insecurity. A man who lashes out and hurts the opposite sex (or uses them for sex) is more likely than not to have unresolved issues with his mother and is angry at her. He needs to confess not only his obvious sin against women, but also to admit, confess and resolve his issues with his mother. It’s the same with a woman who has unresolved issues with her father and is acting this out sexually. We either confess and talk out these issues in creative ways or we inevitably act them out in self-destructive and sinful ways.

Thus, true confession and genuine repentance require that we be personally honest, or, as David put it, without deceit in our spirit. That is, we are not living in denial. In other words, we need to see, admit, and confess not only our external acts of sins (the obvious ones), but also the deeper and often hidden “sins of the spirit” that cause us to act out in self-destructive and sinful ways. Without doing this, genuine repentance isn’t possible, because as long as we fail to confess and resolve our inner sins, we will continue to act them out in one destructive sinful way or another.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to see, admit and confess any deeper unresolved issue I may have that causes me to be sick or act out in sinful ways. Lead me to find the help I need to overcome these so my confession with repentance can and will be genuine. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Psalm 32:1-2 (NIV).

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An Answer to Suffering

“Remember the poor.”1

In an issue of Our Daily Bread I read about Mark and Alice Westlind who are missionaries in Colombia. In one of their monthly letters they wrote the following:

“Driving through Christmas traffic, fighting the drizzling rain, I chanced on a 4-year-old little girl. She was wet and cold and shaking. Her clothes were ragged, her hair was matted, and her nose was running. She walked between the cars at the stoplight, washing headlights because she was too short to wash windshields. A few gave her coins, others honked at her to get away from their vehicles.

“As I drove away only some 50 cents poorer, I raged at God for the injustice in the world that allowed the situation. ‘God, how could you just stand by, helpless?’

“Later that evening, God came to me softly with that still small voice and responded not in like kind to my rage, but with tenderness, ‘I have done something. I created you.’”

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please give me a grateful heart for all the blessings and provisions You have so freely given to me. And give me a compassionate heart so that I will always share what I have with the poor and those who are genuinely in need—and are not in a position to be able to help themselves. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Galatians 2:10.

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The Power of God’s Word

King David wrote, “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.”1

When Satan tempted Jesus in the wilderness, he targeted his appeal to where Jesus was, at that time, most vulnerable. Jesus had fasted for forty days and would have been very weak and hungry so Satan tempted him to turn stones into bread—a seemingly harmless thing for Jesus to do.

However, Jesus was aware of what Satan was up to so he rebuffed him by quoting God’s Word, “It is written: ‘Man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’”2

Satan also tempts us in seemingly harmless ways—especially where we are vulnerable. But once we take the bait, he will lead us deeper down sin’s path.

Because Satan will often tempt us at a point of legitimate need, we need to make certain we get this need met in healthy ways so we won’t be susceptible to his tempting us to get them met in sinful, self-destructive ways!

When Satan does tempt us, an important way to rebuff him is to know God’s Word, memorize and meditate on it as David did, and quote it to him as Jesus did.

Dwight L. Moody, the renowned evangelist, knew the power of God’s Word too. He had written in the fly leaf of his Bible, “This book will keep me from sin or sin will keep me from this book.”

It pays to know God’s Word and hide it in our heart.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please give me a greater love for Your Word with the desire to hide it (memorize) it in my heart—and be quick to quote it when I am tempted. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Psalm 119:11 (NIV).
2. Matthew 4:4 (NIV).

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Mid-Life Challenge

“Then he said to them, ‘Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions.’”1

It began to happen soon after his 50th birthday. Until then Bill had always been reliable, dependable, a successful business man, a good husband, father and provider.

First, he went out and bought a new trendy wardrobe more suitable for a twenty-something man; then he changed his hair style, dyed his graying hair black, and traded in his late-model family car for a hip sports car. He said he didn’t like his work anymore—work that he had always enjoyed. He was depressed, started drinking more with the “boys,” came home late from work more often, and complained to his wife about their growing apart. He said he needed space to “think” about things, and hinted at divorce.

Bill is experiencing what many men go through in their mid-years. He’s in the throes of a mid-life crisis. As he looked back over his life and could now see the end in view, he wondered if he had achieved anything truly meaningful. His business and financial success, with all the material possessions he worked so hard for, left him feeling empty and unfulfilled. He now worries about the future and has convinced himself that it will just be more of the same—ad infinitum?

Unless Bill realizes what he is experiencing and gets some counseling help, rather than further acting out his unrealistic fantasies, he will cause serious heartbreak for his family and possible disaster for himself.

The sooner we men learn that significance is much more important than what the Western world has defined for us as success, and that purpose is of far greater value than possessions, the better off and healthier we can be for the rest of our lives—physically, emotionally, relationally and spiritually.

If, when we come to the end of life’s journey and want to have a sense of significance in that we have contributed to the betterment of mankind in some small way, it is imperative that we discover our God-given life-purpose (that will be serving people in one way or another), and dedicate the rest of our life to fulfilling that purpose.

And by the way, we are never too old to begin that journey.

As God’s Word reminds us, “Then he [Jesus] said to them, ‘Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.’”1

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to discover my God-given life purpose and dedicate myself to the fulfillment of this purpose so that when I stand before You face to face, I will not feel that I have lived in vain. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Luke 12:15 (NIV).

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First Things First

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”1

In his sermon, “The Turning Point,” Richard Fairchild tells how, at the Olympic Games in Paris in 1924, Bill Havens, a member of the four-man U.S. canoe rowing team, made the very difficult decision to withdraw from the games in order to be with his wife for the birth of their first child. The U.S. team won the gold medal and it turned out that the birth of the baby was so late Bill could have stayed on the team and arrived home in plenty of time for the baby’s birth.

However, Bill said he had no regrets because his first commitment was to his wife.

However, there is a fascinating sequel to this story. “The child eventually born to Bill and his wife was a boy whom they named Frank. Twenty-eight years later, in 1952, Bill received a cablegram from Frank. It was sent from Helsinki, Finland, where the 1952 Olympics were being held. The cablegram read: ‘Dad, I won. I’m bringing home the gold medal you lost while waiting for me to be born.’

“Frank Havens had just won the gold medal for the United States in the canoe-racing event, a medal his father had dreamed of winning but never did.”2

It is true for all of us in that whenever we honor our commitments—no matter what the immediate losses may seem—in the long run it always pays to do the right thing. Always.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to always put first things first, honor all my commitments, and never forget to keep the long-term effects of my actions in mind. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Ephesians 5:25 (NIV).
2. Richard Fairchild, “The Turning Point,” http://tinyurl.com/3735ly

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Self Deception

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”1

You may have heard the story about the elderly woman who, when sitting in the waiting room for her first appointment with a new dentist, noticed his DDS diploma, which bore his full name.

Suddenly, she remembered that a tall, handsome, dark-haired boy with the same name had been in her high school class some 40-odd years ago. Could he be the same fellow that she had a secret crush on, way back then?

Upon seeing him, however, she quickly discarded any such thought. This balding, gray-haired man with the deeply lined face was way, way too old to have been her classmate.

After he examined her teeth, she asked him if he had attended Morgan Park High School.

“Yes. Yes. I did. I’m a Morgan Mustang,” he gleamed with pride.

“When did you graduate?” she asked.

He answered, “In 1959. Why do you ask?”

“You were in my class!” she exclaimed.

He looked at her closely and then asked, “What did you teach?”

How easy it is, when meeting old friends we haven’t seen for many years, and think to ourselves how much they have aged, not even imagining that they might be thinking the exact same thing about us. And amazing how easy it is to see “the speck of sawdust” in another’s eye but fail to see “the plank” in our own eye.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to get real about my own self with all my sins and faults so that I will not be judgmental of others. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Jesus, in Matthew 7:3-5 (NIV).

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Sidetracked but Not Hindered

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”1

Fred Bauer wrote how he once “went backstage at the Metropolitan Opera to interview Jerome Hines, the internationally famous singer, who is also an active Christian layman. While he applied makeup and got ready for his role in that night’s production of Aida, I asked him questions about his life and faith. One of the most fascinating things he told me was that he wasn’t a good enough singer to make his high school glee club. He auditioned for the choir, but failed to impress the director. Did that detour his career? I wanted to know.

“’No, I kept on singing,’ Hines said, ‘because I loved to sing. I never considered it anything more than an avocation.’ So he went off to college, studied math and sang as a hobby—which led to some amateur roles, which led to his discovery by people who had a different opinion of his talent from his high school teacher. Later that night, as I stood in the wings and listened to his rich bass voice sweep over that famous hall, I wondered how there could have ever been any question.”2

Of one thing I am convinced, and that is that God has a plan and purpose for every life. We may get sidetracked, experience setbacks, and get discouraged from time to time, but if we are genuinely committed to discovering God‘s plan and, with His help, fulfilling it—and never give up—God will surely direct us so His plan for our life will be fulfilled. Our own life and the lives of many others will be greatly enriched as a result.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, help me to discover Your plan and purpose for my life and never give up no matter how many setbacks that come my way. May I always learn to trust You no matter what. Thank You for your help and for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV).

2. Fred Bauer, Daily Guideposts, 1986, © Guideposts Associates, Inc., http://tinyurl.com/ydwer9

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Encouragement

“Let us encourage one another.”1

One writer observed a mother walking with a small handicapped child whose both legs were in braces. He was having a difficult time but his mother was right there with him encouraging him at every step.

“That’s great! You’re doing splendidly,” she kept repeating.

“I want to run,” the boy called.

“Very well, try it,” his mother encouraged enthusiastically. As he did, he tripped and almost fell and would have except his mother was right there beside him and caught him so he wouldn’t hurt himself. “You did fine,” she said again, “and next time you will do even better.”

God, too, knows our limitations. He sees our brokenness and doesn’t expect us to be able to make it alone. He knows we can’t run with a broken leg. He also knows we can’t live the Christian life without help and encouragement. He wants us to know that he is right there beside us to encourage us to keep trying, to keep growing, and to become stronger.

God also knows that we need supporting friends to encourage us, to help keep us on track, and to keep us accountable—as none of us can make it alone.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, help me to be an encouraging and supporting friend to the people You bring into my life. And help me not to be too proud or afraid to ask for help when I need a friend to lean on. And thank You that I can always ask for and receive Your help as needed. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Hebrews 10:25 (NIV).

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Postmodernism

“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”1

Sometimes it can be very difficult trying to understand the spirit of our age that has been described by some as a day of postmodernism. But what is postmodernism?

The following insights by Kenneth D. Boa and Robert M. Bowman Jr., in their book, 20 Compelling Evidences That God Exists, help me to understand a little of what is happening in today’s secular world. And to help understand post modernism Boa and Bowman summarize the major characteristics by using the acrostic P-O-S-T.

P-Power Controls Knowledge: “According to postmodernists, all knowledge is political. That is, what people believe is shaped largely by their relationship to the political powers that govern the institutions (such as schools and churches) through which knowledge is transmitted.”2

O-Objectivity Is Dead: “Different cultures, different religions, and other types of communities have different perspectives that give them their identity. Postmodernists contend that these different perspectives should be celebrated and preserved, not challenged or critiqued.”3

S-Science Constructs Models; It Does Not Describe Reality: In contrast to science being an understanding of the world as it really is “Thomas Kuhn’s 1962 landmark book The Structure of Scientific Revolutions itself led a revolution in science…. Kuhn has convinced a generation that science cannot and need not seek truth; its goal is rather an understanding of nature that meets the needs of the scientific community and of the larger society. Such a view of science, of course, implies that scientific theories are now to be assessed partly in terms of how well they support the values of those who pursue science.”4

T-Tolerance, Not Truth, Is Absolute: “The postmodernist understands tolerance to mean accepting people’s different beliefs and therefore refraining from criticizing or even disagreeing with those beliefs. Postmodernists are especially bothered by claims that a particular religious or ethical belief is the truth that all people ought to accept. Rather than examining such claims to see whether they hold up in light of the facts, postmodernists dismiss such claims as arrogant, narrow-minded, and intolerant.”5

Tragically, if we don’t correct course, postmodern political correctness will ultimately destroy us. Without access to the truth there is no reality, no freedom, no sense of direction, and no hope of salvation for mankind. No wonder so much of today’s world is floating in a sea of mass confusion. While we don’t agree with postmodernism, we do need to understand its basic tenets so we don’t get sucked into its empty, meaningless void.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me discern the difference between what is truth and what is meaningless rationalization used to justify what postmodernists want me to believe. Help me always to base my beliefs on principles that are found in, and/or in harmony with, Your eternal Word, the Bible. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’s name, amen.”

1. Jesus, in John 8:32 (NIV).

2. Kenneth D. Boa and Robert M. Bowman Jr., in their book, 20 Compelling Evidences That God Exists, Victor, Cook Communications Ministries, Colorado Springs, Colorado. p. 18.
3. Ibid, p. 19.
4. Ibid, p. 19.
5. Ibid, p. 19.

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