Earning the Right to Criticize

“There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.”1

I believe it was Dwight L Moody, the famous evangelist, who was once told by an irate church lady, “Mr. Moody, I don’t like the way you do your evangelism [preaching].”

In reply Mr. Moody said, “I don’t necessarily like all of it either, but it’s the best way I know. Tell me, how do you do it?”

“Oh, I don’t,” was the reply.

“Well,” said Moody, “I like the way I’m doing it better than the way you’re not doing it.”

It’s always easy to know what to do when we don’t have to do the job, and very easy to criticize others when we’re not doing the work ourselves.

Some time ago when I was a member of a large group and things weren’t going too well, I was asked what I thought about the situation and what could be done to improve things. I said that I didn’t feel I had the right to criticize unless I was prepared to do something about it. I was, however, prepared to help, and several of us working together saw things greatly improve.

In this instance, as it is in many other instances, criticism without offering help would have only served to make matters worse and cause further dissension among the group. So, if we’re not willing to put our shoulder to the wheel and do our bit, let’s not stir up dissension through negative criticism. Furthermore, might I add that journalists, politicians, authors, and even preachers don’t have the right to name others and confess their sins in public, without having first confessed their own sins in public.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please deliver me from ever having a negative, bitter, or critical attitude, and wherever I see a need, may I be willing to help if I am able to. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. Proverbs 6:16-19 (NIV).

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I Know It But I Can’t Explain It

“But he, willing to justify himself, said to Jesus, ‘And who is my neighbor?’”1

Oldies but goodies: “The pedestrian had no idea which way to go, so I ran over him.” That, says the Metropolitan Life Insurance Company, is among a list of explanations the company has received for automobile accidents.

Others include: “The other car collided with mine without warning me of its intention.”

“I had been driving my car for 40 years when I fell asleep at the wheel and had the accident.”

“As I reached an intersection, a hedge sprang up, obscuring my vision.”

“I pulled away from the side of the road, glanced at my mother-in-law, and headed over the embankment.”

“The telephone pole was approaching fast. I attempted to swerve out of its path when it struck my front end.”

“The guy was all over the road. He had to swerve a number of times before I hit him.”

“The indirect cause of this accident was a little guy in a small car with a big mouth.”

But Metropolitan says the strangest reason of all is, “An invisible car came out of nowhere, struck my car, and vanished.”

I guess, like the lawyer who questioned Jesus, it’s a human trait that too many of us want to justify ourselves whenever we do wrong or fail to do what we know we should.

However, it’s only when we get real and admit our mistakes that we can learn from them, grow, and find forgiveness—from God and others. As Solomon put it, “A man who refuses to admit his mistakes can never be successful. But if he confesses and forsakes them, he gets another chance.”2

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to be mature and honest enough to admit when I make a mistake, quit playing the blame-game, and accept full responsibility for all of my actions. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. Luke 10:29.

2. Proverbs 28:13 (TLB)(NLT).

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Life’s Little Frustrations

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs and don’t forget to thank him for his answers. If you do this you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand.”1

Paul Dickson discovered that the size of the cut he inflicted on himself while shaving was directly proportionate to the importance of the event he was shaving for. That led him to an interest in other “universal laws” evident in daily life. The following are a few of the many he has collected:

“No books you lend are lost except those you
particularly want to keep.

“There are three ways to get something done:
do it yourself, hire someone, or tell your kids
not to do it.

“You can throw a burnt match out of the window
of your car and start a forest fire easier than
you can start one under dry logs in your fireplace
with a box of matches and the complete edition
of the Sunday newspaper.”

Let’s face it, more often than not it’s life’s little annoyances that get to trigger our “worry/ frustration button” and cause us to overreact in one way or another.

As one of my favorite ditties goes: “It’s the little things that bother us / and put us on the rack / you can sit upon a mountain / but you can’t sit on a tack.”

Most of us have at least one worry/frustration button—and as long as this button is active, it’s a good reminder that I still have some growing to do—and will until I get to the place where I quit worrying and overreacting and learn to trust God for everything!

Hmm. I see I still have a ways to go!

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to keep growing in ‘faith and love and every grace’ so I can get to the point where I can accept life’s frustrations without getting my buttons pushed, and trust you in every situation. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. Philippians 4:6-7 (TLB)(NLT).

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On Being Politically or Biblically Correct

“A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.”1

It has been said that if you stand for something worthwhile, you will have some people for you and some against you. But if you stand for nothing, you will have nobody against you—but neither will you have anybody for you.

In today’s society there is tremendous pressure to be politically correct and open minded; that is, except towards evangelical Christianity. If you make a stand for Christian convictions, you are just as likely to be labeled intolerant, bigoted and/or narrow minded. Funny how those who so aggressively oppose Christianity don’t see themselves as rigid, inflexible, dogmatic and intolerant!

What many don’t seem to realize is that if you stand for nothing, you can easily fall for anything. Or as E. Stanley Jones put it, “The difference between a swamp and a river is that a river has banks, and a swamp has none—it spreads over everything. Some people are rivers: they know where they want to go, and they confine themselves to the banks that lead to that goal. But some people are swamps: they spread over everything; their minds are so open they cannot hold a conviction.”

I’d much rather be a “river for God” and know where I stand and where I’m going and be labeled narrow minded than to be a swamp for “anything goes” and be popular with the crowd! It is much wiser to be biblically correct than politically correct.

As martyred missionary Jim Elliot, who stood firmly on the Word of God, said, “He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.”

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please give me the courage to stand firmly on your foundation of truth based on your Word, the Bible, knowing that in the long run truth will survive the test of time. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. James 1:8.

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Psychic or Prophetic Predictions

“Do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.”1

A few years ago Ralph Blodgett, who has researched psychic predictions for several years found that in a given year out of 250 specific predictions by 30 of the nation’s leading psychics, less than three percent could be listed as “reasonably fulfilled.”

Blodgett said, “I used to think psychics had to be led by either God or the devil. Now I’m convinced that they are being led most of the time by no one at all.”

Sometimes, too, I can’t help but wonder about some Christians who claim that God has given them a special word. I’ve had articles sent to me in the hopes that I would accept them for publication, the writer of whom assured me that their message was given to them by God and they wanted him to have all the glory for it. Frankly, I don’t think God wanted the glory for some of this material.

On one occasion one fellow informed me that God had told him he was to work for me. I didn’t give him a job. He was neither trained nor qualified for our type of work. I’ve heard others claim they had a word from the Lord … and what they “prophesied” never did happen.

In Old Testament times the test of a true prophet was 100 percent accuracy. The punishment for a false prophet was extremely severe. It was death.2

Today, in New Testament times, we are warned not to believe every spirit, but to put them to the test to make sure their word is from God. Of one thing we can be certain, if what a person claims is a word from God and it is contrary to God’s Word, we know it is not from God.

So does God still speak to people today? Yes, mostly through his Word, the Bible. It can also be through circumstances, through an inner conviction—the still small voice within—and on occasion through an audible voice. I recently wrote about a friend who, during a storm, was awakened in the night by an audible voice that said, “Sit up and take in a deep breath.” She thought she was dreaming so went back to sleep. The third time she heard the voice, she sat up, took in a deep breath—and smelled smoke. Their house had been struck by lightning and was on fire. The entire family barely made it out of the house when it exploded in flames and was totally destroyed.

However God speaks to you and to me, we need to be certain it is in harmony with his Word, the Bible. If not, dismiss it immediately, as there are many crackpots who, among other things, raise a lot of money from ill-informed and sometimes gullible people. Remember, too, “where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty”3—not compulsions!

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please give me a desire to read, study and know your Word so that I will not be led astray by false prophets, or by my own mis-leadings. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. 1 John 4:1 (NIV).

2. Deuteronomy 18:20 (NIV).

3. 2 Corinthians 3:17.

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How’s Your Self-Worth?

Jesus said, “Love your neighbor as yourself.”1

While Jesus said we were to love our neighbor as ourselves, somebody else said, “Heaven help your neighbor if you hate yourself.” There’s a lot of truth in this statement. The fact is I can only love and accept others to the degree that I have learned to love and accept myself; that is, in a healthy sense.

How I see myself, what I think about myself, how I feel about myself, and how well I accept myself will largely determine what I get out of life. If I see myself as having little worth, I will never achieve my God-given potential. But if I see myself as having great value, not in a prideful way, but as God sees and accepts me, I will, with God’s help, be able to reach and achieve my God-given life purpose and potential.

Take a bar of iron and make it into nails and it will be worth a few dollars; make it into weight bearing posts it will be worth much more; refine it and make it into stainless steel pots and it will be worth even more; or refine it even further to take out all its impurities and use it to make finely tuned space age rocket engines and it will be worth a fortune.

Life’s like that. If you believe in yourself in a healthy sense, with God’s help and his “refining fire” (plus a lot of hard work), you can become the person God envisions you to be, and be able to fulfill your God-given life purpose.

What is important is not how or where we got started in life, but how and where we finish! We had no choice in the former, but we do in the latter.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to see and accept myself as you see and accept me, and put me through your ‘refining fire’ so that I will reach and achieve my total God-given potential for you glory. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. Mark 12:31 (NIV).

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Successful Failures

“Samuel saw Eliab and thought ‘surely the Lord’s anointed [for king] stands here before the Lord.’ But the Lord said to Samuel, ‘Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.’”1

Today’s society places tremendous emphasis on physical appearance not only for women, but also (even if to a lesser degree) for men. If, for example, two men of equal qualifications apply for the same job, the tallest man is most likely to be chosen for the position.

Because of his amazing courage in the Battle of Lodi in 1796, Napoleon Bonaparte became known as “the little corporal.” He was only five-feet-two-inches tall!

William Wilberforce was another small man who apparently never enjoyed good health. For twenty years he was under a doctor’s care. More than any other person he was responsible for stopping the British slave trade. He was known for his eloquence and in 1780 entered the British Parliament at age 21. Six years later he joined Thomas Clarkson, the anti-slave campaigner, and began his fight against slavery even though the bill to end the slave trade didn’t become law until 1807—twenty-one years later.

On one occasion James Boswell, the great Scottish author went to hear Wilberforce speak. Afterward he said, “I saw what seemed to be a mere shrimp … but as I listened, he grew and grew till the shrimp became a whale.”

Often in life, many of the greatest achievements have been accomplished by persons who have had a serious setback, a major limitation or handicap, or a significant failure of one kind or another, but have overcome their defect to rise above their circumstances.

If you feel you have a shortcoming, be encouraged, the people God uses are ordinary people who make themselves available.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, thank you that you use ordinary people to accomplish your work on earth. I am available. Please make me usable, and use me to be a part of what you are doing in the world today. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. 1 Samuel 16:6-7 (NIV).

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Looking Back to Go Forward

“But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”1

You’ve no doubt read that if flies are placed in a jar with air holes in the lid, they will fly around frantically, banging into the lid, desperately trying to escape from their prison. However, if left there long enough, eventually they will stop banging into the lid. Later, if the lid is removed, they won’t even try to escape. Somehow they have been conditioned “to believe” that there is no escape. They just keep circling in the cramped jar.

Some of us are like that. Somewhere in our past, through a bad experience, perhaps in a bad marriage, or as a teenager or child we were hurt and have been “conditioned” to believe that there is no escape, so we are afraid to try again for fear of failure or of getting hurt again.

To overcome, one needs to acknowledge where and how in the past he or she had been hurt, express the hurt, anger and/or grief creatively if these feelings exist, and then let go of them so he/she can go forward into the future unencumbered by his or her past.

As Peter said, “So get rid of your feelings of hatred.”2 Repressing or denying feelings doesn’t get rid of them. It only adds interest to them and makes things worse in the long run. Negative emotions need to be expressed verbally (or written out) in a creative manner. With grief we need to sob it out until it is all gone. That’s what tears are for. For some of us skilled counseling may be needed to help us re-connect to our super-charged repressed negative and damaged emotions, and to express them creatively.

Once this is done, forgiveness becomes possible, which we need to grant to anyone who ever hurt us. Only then can we be freed from the past and put it behind us. And then, if there is still fear of being hurt again, acknowledge the fear but choose not to allow it to control you. With God’s help step out and try, try, try again until you succeed in what it is you want to do, or better still, to do what you believe God wants you to do.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to resolve any hurts from the past that are affecting my life in any negative way, and help me to forgive any and all who have ever hurt me. And help me to seek forgiveness where I have hurt others, so I can put all these things behind me, forget them, and be free to fully live and fully love. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. Philippians 3:13-14 (NIV).

2. 1 Peter 2:1 (TLB)(NLT).

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Faith vs. Presumption

Jesus said, “If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”1

I remember reading in Reader’s Digest about a company who glued a mustard seed to a brochure that was advertising the product they were manufacturing. Beneath the mustard seed they had a caption that went something like the following: “If you have faith as much as a grain of mustard seed in our product, you will see a mountain of difference in what you are trying to achieve.”

Some months later a customer wrote back to the company saying, “You will be interested to know that I planted your mustard seed and it has already grown into a very robust plant—bearing healthy tomatoes!”

For our purpose what kind of seed the advertiser used doesn’t really matter, but for us to achieve anything worthwhile with our life, our faith needs to be genuine and based on reality, not on some grandiose fantasy.

Every one of us has a mountain or two in our life that we need to remove, be it a bad habit, an addiction, an impaired or toxic relationship, an unforgiving spirit, or whatever. To assume that God will remove these mountains without our accepting full responsibility for doing our part isn’t faith—it’s presumption—and presumption won’t make it.

Sometimes, too, we want to do something strictly for our own end. To justify it we say it is God’s will or God is leading me or told me to do such and such. When we do this with an impure motive, this too isn’t faith but presumption.

Many people believe that if they do more good deeds than bad deeds, this will qualify them for entering God’s heaven. Others believe that all religions lead to God and, if adhered to religiously, will qualify them for entering God’s heaven. Unfortunately these are presumptions. The only way to qualify for God’s heaven is to have faith in the way God has stated in his Word, the Bible, and that is through Jesus who said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father [God] except through me.”2

When it comes to life after death, presumption can be fatal—eternally fatal. Faith is crucial but it needs to be in the right “seed”—and that is, in the saving gospel message of Jesus Christ. For help see the article, “How to Be Sure You’re a Real Christian,” at: www.actsweb.org/christian.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please deliver me from the fatal folly of presumption and help me to always have faith in your ways as found in your Word, the Bible. Sometimes I feel like the man in the Bible who said, ‘Lord I believe. Help thou my unbelief.’ Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. Matthew 17:20 (NIV).

2. John 14:6 (NIV).

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Faith Without Action

“Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.”1

Napoleon Hill said, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe can be achieved.” While this statement sounds rather grandiose, there is certainly a measure of truth in it. It’s somewhat similar to what Jesus said two thousand years earlier: “According to your faith be it unto you.”2 But as James, the brother of Jesus, explained, without action faith is useless.

As the old saying goes, you can’t steer a ship or a bicycle to go anywhere until they’re moving. Zig Ziglar in his book, See You at the Top, put it this way: “The largest locomotive in the world can be held in its tracks while standing still simply by placing a single one-inch block of wood in front of each of the eight drive wheels. The same locomotive moving at 100 miles per hour can crash through a wall of steel reinforced concrete five feet thick.”

The important thing is that we get moving! As James said, “Faith without works is dead.”

Some people are sitting around waiting for some kind of special call or revelation from God before they get involved in his work. It’s not likely to happen because God has already given us lots of instructions in his Word regarding what to do. All we need to do is read these instructions … and start moving into action!

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to be a doer of your Word and not just a hearer. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. James 2:17 (NIV).

2. Matthew 9:29.

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