Fox-Hole Promises

“It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it.” Or as a paraphrase puts it, “It is better to say nothing than to promise something that you don’t follow through on.”1

Pedro was driving down the street in a sweat because he had an important meeting and couldn’t find a parking place.

Looking up toward heaven, he said, “Lord, take pity on me. If you find me a parking place I will go to Mass every Sunday for the rest of my life and give up tequila.”

Miraculously, a parking place appeared. Pedro looked up again and said, “Never mind­—I found one.”

We’ve all heard about fox-hole promises—promises that are made to God when we are caught in a difficult situation or when our back is against the wall. And as soon as the problem passes, the promise we made to God in our hour of desperate need is quickly forgotten.

Unfortunately we are living in a day where the word of far too many people doesn’t mean a thing either to God or others. Commitments are made and forgotten. Promises are made and readily broken. The ability to keep one’s word, promises, and commitments are a mark of character. And as Michael Josephson constantly reminds us, “character counts!”

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to become a man/woman of noble character who always keeps his/her commitments and promises to you and to everyone else. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. Ecclesiastes 5:5 (NIV and NLT).

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When the Best Advice Is No Advice

“Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.”1

“Dear Dick,” a Daily Encounter reader writes, “I am hoping you can provide some words of wisdom that I can use to help a friend whose 18-year-old daughter has become pregnant. The daughter had received a scholarship to a certain College but it has been revoked. I would appreciate any advice you can provide for this mother as well as the mother to be. I value your Daily Encounter. It has made a huge impact on my life and my relationship with God.”

“Dear Eileen (name changed),” I replied, “sometimes the best ‘advice’ to give to hurting people is not to give any advice but to ‘weep with those who weep,’ and to let them know that we care and that we love them.

“I did this for a friend recently who was hurting real bad … I just held him while he (a young adult) sobbed in my arms. After his pain subsided, we prayed together and I assured him that he was very much loved. He was dealing with some major childhood hurts that he had never resolved as well as the recent loss of his girlfriend.

“At least for right now this is probably the best thing the distraught mother can do for her hurting daughter … and perhaps the best thing you can do for your friend. Do remember, however, that when Jesus grieved, he wept too.”

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to develop a compassionate heart so that I will always be a friend who knows not only how to rejoice with those who rejoice; but also, how to weep with those who weep. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

1. Romans 12:15 (NKJV).

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